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Thanks Ant

Editor’s Note: I only blog about once every 3 months, which is not good practice for a blog, but it was necessary for a note about Anthony Cumia, who was recently fired from Sirius XM.  When you’ve tuned in for many years routinely to these guys, you get a one-sided connection to these voices on the radio.  I really enjoyed The Opie and Anthony Show and wish Opie, Anthony and Jim the best!!! 


Thanks Anthony Cumia for the laughs you have given me over the last few years.

I sigh heavily at the thought of just rehashing what has happened and what my take on it is, it clearly doesn’t matter.

Minds don’t get changed, but I know in my heart, that I support the honesty and the laughs you’ve given me, a housewife with 3 kids and ear buds.  I’m a grown woman that can turn off the radio when I hear a racist/sexist rant, and I have.  I believe in open dialog, even with opinions that are opposite of mine.

In all honesty, I can’t stand the hate that spews from anyone.  I want a kind gentle world, I have 3 angels I’m raising.. (that’s supposed to elicit nausea by the way) but guess what, this is not what we live in. And those 3 pumpkins will be dealing with the negative and the insecurities of others, and the baggage of those with hurt and pain.  When people are at their lowest they say some pretty despicable things, that’s life.  People are human. They make mistakes.  Why condemn them, when we should seek to understand, and become part of the conversation, and maybe look at the looming big issue?  If you start advocating for censorship even “indirectly” you start denying the opportunity for discussion and change.

There will always be hate in the world, unfortunately but I TRULY TRULY believe that laughter is so powerful that it is a door to understanding. My early morning listening ritual of O&A before the kids wake up made me laugh so many days.  It was right before (usually) anyone could get cranky, and the brutal honesty is something so different than what you got on housewife TV.  I look forward to checking out Anthony’s new podcast.  And I continue to listen to my favorite shock jock, Opie Hughes and the slim and funny Jimmy Norton.

Cool Shit to Check out:

If you want to check out some of the pieces that affected me this past week, here you go(this is such a mixed bag of stuff, but hey aren’t we all multi-faceted?):

Sirius Buzz: Best article yet on how SiriusXM transformed into “the MAAAAN” and has made podcasting more relevant,click here. Excerpt: “SiriusXM is walking the fine line of trying to be politically correct for everyone when what they should be doing is marketing themselves as a celebration in diversity, varied opinion, and standing proud of the fact that they can be a platform for controversial things that traditional audio entertainment outlets will not touch.”

@Cigarsnscotch piece on Gallows Humor:  “The people that I view as the real ghouls are the holier than thou art, sanctimonious scumbags that will bring the jokes to the attention of someone that they would hurt. They do so under the guise of consciousness and moral outrage, but they do it for no other reason than to make themselves look good.  They will selfishly inflict pain upon a victim in order to paint themselves as  pillars of justice and humanity. If there is anyone that should be reviled and met with contempt, it is someone like that. ”

Gilbert Gottfried (also Cigarsnscotch doppleganger) article about Apologies in 2014: ” “I’m sorry you were offended, because you are apparently incapable of distinguishing between the real world and the ironic fantasy world of comedy.”

Stevey Knight’s blog, that was well written that is similar to how I feel, and much better expressed than I would be able to…-”

Lionel Media– This guy talks alot… but he’s got a point.

Funny stuff via Mephisto :

Support from friends:


Jim Norton:

Penn Jillette:

Joe Rogan:

Jay Mohr:

A Music Interlude:

Ebony and Ivory performed by Carlton, sweet guy, with Ant:

Tammy Pescatelli:

Deepak Chopra and Rorschach

Lastly, an audio podcast, Rorschach‘s July 4th Solo Show on It’s All About Me on Morelikeradio: This was pretty refreshing, and inspiring, and most probably will call it New Age Crap.  But I was touched by it.  Anger is such a big part of Anthony, but if he would let it go, wouldn’t it be better for his soul?  Would he still be entertaining? Why or Why not? (callback to notsam) You can listen to Rorschach’s last few minutes about Anger on It’s All About Meee….(Fast Forward to 1:43)

Here’s the Deepak Chopra piece Rorschach plays and how he wants Ant to feel peace and not let the anger consume him.

Deepak- “Judgment creates turbulence in our mind. When there is turbulence in our mind, then it interferes with the creativity of our soul. Creativity and judgment don’t go together. Judgment also means that letting go of the need to classify things, to call them either right or wrong, to label, to define, to describe, to evaluate, to analyze.

Let go, today. Judge not today. Today I will practice non-judgment.

This affirmation is about releasing the need to be judgmental. Just make this your lesson today. Consider what happens when you judge someone – it makes another person wrong. Someone else is wrong to feel a certain way, to look a certain way, to hold certain opinions. Judgment immediately creates separation. Any person who is wrong then becomes ‘them’. The need to judge arises from the need to be isolated – this is the ego’s form of defense. But at the same time you are pulling away from your true self. The same walls that keep other people away also shut off the flow of Spirit.
When you learn not to judge, you are basically saying, “I am willing to let anything in without deciding first whether it is good or bad.”

In the practice of openness, you will be inviting your soul to be intimate with you. So put your attention in your heart right now, and just repeat to yourself:

Today, I will judge nothing that occurs.
Today, I will judge nothing that occurs.
Today, I will judge nothing that occurs.
And by letting go of my judgments today, I will experience silence in my mind.
By shedding the burden of judgment today, I will experience silence in my mind.
And in this silence, I will find the ecstatic impulse, which is also the evolutionary impulse of the universe.
And I will align myself with the ecstatic evolutionary impulse of the universe, by letting go of all my judgments.
Today, I will not classify
I will not label
I will not define
I will not describe
I will not evaluate
I will not analyze.
Today, I will shed the burden of judgment.”

In conclusion:


The Fez Chronicles

Let me preface this entry by saying ‘these are only my opinions, I have come to these conclusions based on the evidence presented to me (i.e. as hear on that radio show) I have never met Fez or Ron.


A lot of you that are listeners of the Ron and Fez show are painfully aware that Fez ‘has issues’ (which is putting it hilariously mild) I am viewed as being vastly critical of Fez based on my tweets. This is true. But here is why.


Fez is not ‘mentally ill’ but ‘emotionally ill.’ He is clinically depressed (which he has admitted) but what a lot of people don’t understand that depression comes with a lot of symptoms that go beyond what the drug commercials warn us of.

Depression and general anxiety is usually experienced by everyone at one time or another. In my experience it usually becomes lifestyle altering due to a trauma. I know this because mine began in 1997 due to an emotional trauma.

Typically, depression and anxiety come with the ‘usual’ symptoms…

  • Feelings of worthlessness
  • Joint pain
  • Fatigue
  • Loss of pleasure in hobbies
  • Thoughts of suicide
  • Panic attacks


What they don’t tell you about is the extreme paranoia that comes with depression.

Fez is extremely paranoid. But not in the cocaine fueled paranoia most people joke about. (the-dog-would-have-barked–if-someone-was-at-the-door kind of thing)

Fez is paranoid that people are ‘out to get him’ in the jokes they make. And because Fez is so depressed that he can no longer laugh at himself, and then everyone must be laughing at him right?

I’ve listened to him go off on wild contrary opinions about things he has obviously done zero research on, and when beginning to lose a discussion, he turns that person’s stance into a personal attack on himself (i.e. homophobia)

I get frustrated with Fez because his tolerance for misery is astounding. It’s almost as if he enjoys his misery. And when something physically happens to him (another heart attack or his back problems) He feels safe in those physical ailments because it garners him sympathy (which he wants) and it gives him a break from, what he perceives, is emotional attacks on his life or opinions. (Who would mock out a guy who had a heart attack, really?)


If you go back and listen to Ron and Fez shows from even 2008 you will see a vast difference in Fez.

Back then, Fez never minded the jokes about him and his assumed lifestyle. He made himself the butt of jokes and laughed right along with people. Now he just screams his opinion with no knowledge and weeps when he imagines he’s being attacked.


Fez has to get sick of the misery. Get sick of being depressed and fight it. Pills and therapy can only help so much. It’s a daily struggle to keep that paranoia at bay. It’s a lifetime of working to remain emotionally healthy. If you want to be emotionally strong and ‘be funny’ again, you have to fight to be that way. No shrink is going to make you better Fez, only you are.

I’m not talking out of my ass here either. I struggle, sometimes painfully, every single day to keep that darkness out. I use the coping skills I was taught in therapy and work on staying emotionally healthy, for myself and for my daughter and husband. To be the best I can possibly be. It can be done.


Rant over




We are all a little Norma Jean


I’ve always kind of liked Marilyn Monroe. My grandmother and sister in law were always big fans of hers. I am more of an Elizabeth Taylor fan but upon meeting my friend Lindsay (who is a die hard MM fan) I decided to borrow an audio book from my local library called ‘The secret life of Marilyn Monroe’ to find out exactly what Marilyn’s story was.

I was thunderstruck at what I heard. From the moment Norma Jean Mortensen was born till the day Marilyn Monroe died, no life could have been harder. She came from extremely humble beginnings to become the most famous (and infamous) woman in the world. Marilyn Monroe is always associated with beauty and glamour. In her 36 years on this earth she has inspired many a career (I’m looking at you Madonna) and emblazoned our minds with an achievable sense of beauty.

Yet I’m always shocked when someone calls her a whore.

Marilyn operated at a different level then most of us. She came of age in a time when women were expected to get married, have kids and keep the house. Marilyn didn’t exactly fit into this stereotype. But she tried. And I’m guess because she failed she was labeled a whore. She made bad decisions, dated the wrong men, drank a little too much and popped too many pills. Oh, and she had sex with more then one man in her lifetime.

I noticed that people who don’t like Marilyn immediately label her as a pill popping drug addict. Now that I’ve heard more of her story, I’m inclined to think those people, who are always screaming that Marilyn didn’t actually say all those things the memes say she did, see a little of themselves in flawed people. Anything that doesn’t capture our interest, or annoys us, we look for a flaw and exploit it. These people think that telling young women not to make Marilyn Monroe their role model are a little misguided. Marilyn is a role model and a dire warning. She created a sense of romantic sexuality without being obscene. She proved you could be sexy, beautiful and flawed but still be loved. Her weakness is what drew people to her. Her mistakes reflect back to us how flawed we all are, and remind us that even the best of us have made awful mistakes. I’m sure if our lives were played out on a public stage, like Marilyn’s were, we would be so quick to judge others. Marilyn paid the ultimate price for the life she chose to live. But I don’t think we can condemn her, without learning from her.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, Marilyn’s story struck a chord in me. Reminded me of all those flawed people I love and continue to love despite their mistakes. Just the way my friends and family continue to love me, despite my shortcomings.

I fell in love with Marilyn today, but only because I see Norma Jean in me.


The angst of a peacemaker

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Scammer hate

I hate deception.
I’m sure everyone does, but it really bothers me how people want to take advantage of others. So I got a message the other day…

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“We have received a legal petition notice against your name concerning a tax fraud, a tax evasion. So before this matter goes to the federal claim court house, or before you get arrested by the county sheriffs, can you call us back on our call back number which is 866-978-8345? I repeat 866-978-8345. Don’t… disregard this message and do return the call. Again, this is Sebastian Dusk from Tax Audit department. To know more about this case, kindly press 1 now. To ignore this message please press 9. You have a blessed day. Good bye.”

Apparently this guy gets around, since April 1st has been calling so much that there is a thread about him on


from 800 notes (the number the guy called me from) Someone posted this about him

from 800 notes (the number the guy called me from) Someone posted this about him

So if anyone has an idea on how to punish this guy let me know. I’m calling the IRS to report him, but thought maybe the OA community could do something….

Opie do you want to call this guy on the radio?

Would be fun…

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